Some men can last for tens of minutes during sex before orgasm.
There are also men who can perform like porn stars with ones can last for well over an hour.
But there are also those who find it difficult even to last a couple of minutes.
These men, depending on the doctor’s diagnosis, could have Premature Ejaculation, or PE issues.
Facts About Premature Ejaculation:
A recent study found that sex that lasts between 3 to 13 minutes gives the best sexual experience for both partners.
Mind you, this time is not including foreplay.
All those stories that say Men should atleast last for an hour are false.
Men who cannot last long in bed are often those who are struggling with premature ejaculation.
These men often find it difficult even to reach the 3-minute mark.
And more surprisingly, it’s been found that 1 in 3 men suffer from chronic Premature Ejaculation.
Chronic Premature Ejaculation means that you are not able to last for even 3 minutes during any intercourse session.
The one-off situation is fine and can be ignored.
For such men, it can be difficult to enjoy sex, let alone sexually please their partners in bed.
The Truth About Having Premature Ejaculation:
Many women expect their partners to last an hour during sex.
This puts a strain on the relationship as the man finds it difficult to even last a minute before the climax.
Unlike ED, no little blue pill can fix premature ejaculation.
For most men with premature ejaculation issues, they find it difficult to control their ejaculation mechanism leading their partners to think them to be selfish.
A survey was conducted by urologists Andrew McCullough, M.D., of the New York University School of Medicine and James Barada, M.D., of the Albany College of Medicine.
This survey showed that of the 1,100 men who reported to have premature ejaculation problems, half of them stated that they had difficulty enjoying sex
This was mainly because of their focus on preventing premature ejaculation instead of enjoying the experience.
Now, let’s take a look at some of the reasons why men cannot last long in bed:
Reason 1: Getting Older
We know that getting older can cause sexual performance to decline which includes having premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction problems.
A recent survey found that almost thirty percent of men who are in their sixties and seventies experience premature ejaculation.
While male enhancement pills like Viagra can help improve erection quality, they don’t always work to helping enhance the duration of sex.
Reason 2: Too Much Foreplay
Orgasms occur when we reach the peak of our sexual excitement levels.
So, if the man prefers to perform after a lot of foreplay, it can lead to premature ejaculation as he is too stimulated to control his orgasm.
While foreplay is great to set the mood and get both partners warmed up, it can cause premature ejaculation in some men.
To avoid this, make sure that you enjoy yourself without getting carried away.
Reason 3: Drinking Too Much Alcohol
The reason many men drink alcohol before having sex is to last longer in bed.
If the man has been drinking, there is alcohol in his system which can cause his senses to become numb.
The advantage of this is that the man won’t feel every sensation of his penis during intercourse.
This can indeed help to last longer during sex.
Unfortunately, there is a downside to drinking alcohol before sex.
Too much alcohol can make you total numb. You may find it difficult even to get an erection, leading to no sex for anyone.
Reason 4: Not Masturbating Before Sex
The mind can be trained to overcome many insurmountable obstacles, including premature ejaculation.
To last longer in intercourse, masturbating right before having sex can help.
Men can help train their own mind to understand the “point of no return”. Stopping right before the moment is the key.
So, one of the reasons many men ejaculate early during sex is because they are easily stimulated to orgasm.
Reason 5: Having Poor Technique In Bed
There are sexual techniques that can help increase stimulation of the penis.
These help to improve sexual pleasure while causing orgasms faster.
This is great for those who already have lasted for a sufficient period. But, isn’t suitable for those who struggle with premature ejaculation.
If you are grappling with premature ejaculation, you should consider changing your go-to technique in bed. This will help you last longer in bed.
These were the reasons most men cannot last long in bed.
So, let’s take a look at how to help avoid premature ejaculation while enjoying sex like it’s meant to be enjoyed.
Ways To Can Help Premature Ejaculation:
Women need to understand that premature ejaculation is not a choice.
In fact, it is a problem that has nothing to do with being selfish or lazy in bed.
Often, men who have Premature Ejaculation will try their best at pleasing their partners.
Usually, they ignore the body and miss the signs that indicate the point of no return.
There is a good way for the woman to help improve sex for both partners.
She can calm the man to relax and enjoy the moment instead of only thinking about her.
The woman can also convince the man to try other forms of sexual experiences.
These should not involve the penis. This can help reduce his performance anxiety.
Exercises are also available online that can help men improve their sexual stamina by practicing to delay their climax.
Some men find that distracting themselves during sex can cause a delay in ejaculation.
Some perform the Please, Squeeze, At Ease method to gain success in delaying premature orgasm.
This technique helps the man find his point of no return. It instructs him to switch modes of sexual activity to allow the orgasmic feeling to go down.
This helps relax his sexual tension which can help him last longer the next time he starts the intercourse.
Mikael is a health nutrition expert and loves mountain biking. Mikael started his health product research journey about 6 years ago and still loves doing it. Apart from spending time on his study, research & literature, he plays basketball regularly and is a fitness freak.